We all have those days. Someone says something particularly insensitive, which hits a nerve. You don't know quite how to react, but you walk away shrugging it off. It doesn't bother you for an hour or so. Then negative thoughts slowly dominate, perhaps completely unrelated to what was said. You begin to feel depressed, even in a positive setting with a significant other. He already knows your insecurities, and you don't want to make the meeting a downer, so you keep it in. You feel like eating more. You give in to large portions of bad food. It doesn't really make you feel better, but you eat it. Your sense of fullness doesn't seem to work as it normally does. You feel bad about it later. And you just feel bad. Unworthy. Unsuccessful. Problematic.
How do you start to feel better? At least for myself, computer searching never helps, whether social or not. One thing that helps is to have a social network of friends, people that you can call and feel secure in venting. However, venting too much may drive friends (who are not as close) away. Another tip is to walk outside. Just being able to breathe fresh air feels good. Plus, you may get a small dose of endorphins to help make you feel better. Find a few inspirational quotes. Write down what you feel. Make a poem. For some people, making lists or plans seems to relax them. Take a bath or shower and take care of your body. Bring out a nice perfume or candle. More importantly, think about your good qualities- your successes, your personality, the people who love you. Tell yourself those good qualities out loud. Smile at yourself when you look in the mirror. Love yourself. Love yourself everyday.
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